Your Marriage Matters is excited to announce we are hosting a premarital preparation workshop on April 23rd! When: Saturday, April 23rd, 2016 from 9 AM – 4PM Where: Hampton Inn & Suites – 1955 Waddle Rd. State College, PA 16803 Who: For couples who are engaged or thinking about getting married in the near future What: […]
Forgive: 1. to stop feeling angry about something or toward someone 2. to stop requiring payment 3. to give up resentment of 4. to grant pardon for or remission of (an offense, debt, etc.); absolve 5. to give up all claim on account of; remit (a debt, obligation, etc.) I stumbled upon these descriptions when […]
Coming Home The manner in which we start something often dictates how it ends. If you go into a tense meeting at work already anxious, it will likely result in acting flustered. If you start a construction project without much planning, it will likely lead to multiple expensive trips back to Home Depot. How you […]
“I love you, I’m just not in love with you.” I hear this phrase uttered all too often, as if it’s an emotional balm that will somehow soothe the heartache that was just unleashed. I’ve long cringed at the dishonesty and […]
As I sit here on a cold, wet and dreary February morning in central PA, trying to write an inspiring invitation to celebrate National Marriage Month, I was faced with a perplexing question: why February to celebrate marriage? It’s often dreary, still dark, and possesses a lingering post-Christmas holiday depression. Not exactly Hollywood romance material. Looking […]
Written by Alicia, our Your Marriage Matters Intern When I was a little girl, I remember sitting in my room and making a list of the perfect guy I would want to marry. A very long list… with details of what kind of humor he should have, what he should look like, what his […]
Can I be direct and honest? The right time is most likely right now. Let me paint for you a sad reality which I’m confronted with all too frequently. The couple walks into my office quiet and emotionally distant. They engage me in brief pleasantries, but their spirit is tired. One of them releases a deep and mournful […]
The value of speaking for yourself instead of your partner… I Statements. You’ve probably heard of the concept, whether in school or in therapy yourself. In case you’ve forgotten, here’s an easy breakdown for you: Step 1: State your emotion, using the words “I feel ….. ” Step 2: Explicitly describe the behavior “when […]
I want you to do a quick mental exercise with me. I want you to picture your partner in your mind’s eye. Make it flattering. And make sure they are smiling. You can smile too. Holding onto this image, I want you to bring to mind a quality in your partner that makes you […]
When we think about common threats to a healthy marriage we might think of issues like finances, children or sexual intimacy. While these are valid and significant issues, there is a threat more subtle and damaging to marriage: busyness.