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4 Steps to Being Better Understood 4

The value of speaking for yourself instead of your partner… I Statements. You’ve probably heard of the concept, whether in school or in therapy yourself. In case you’ve forgotten, here’s an easy breakdown for you:   Step 1: State your emotion, using the words “I feel ….. ” Step 2: Explicitly describe the behavior “when […]


Is it about the nail?

  If you haven’t yet, watch the video above. Go ahead, I think you’ll enjoy it.   I want to tell you a story about a younger and more foolish me. One evening as my wife and I were talking about our day, she started to share a story with me about some conflict taking […]


Being sorry for disappointing your partner.

So you’re sorry for disappointing your partner. As a follow up of sorts to my last post, Dealing with Disappointment, I’d like to share a few quick thoughts on how to respond when we find ourselves in this unenviable position. Two prevailing principles are at play here: say what you mean & mean what you say; and actions speak louder than words.


Valentine’s Day, Here Again

It is that time of year again, when all the lovey-dovey Facebook posts reach their peak. When the rose market experiences an “inexplicable” 300% mark up. When restaurants become filled to capacity and supermarket greeting card isles are packed with men frantically swooping in to scavenge the remaining few greeting cards available. (Been there, done that) With all the […]