Written by Alicia, our Your Marriage Matters Intern When I was a little girl, I remember sitting in my room and making a list of the perfect guy I would want to marry. A very long list… with details of what kind of humor he should have, what he should look like, what his […]
Can I be direct and honest? The right time is most likely right now. Let me paint for you a sad reality which I’m confronted with all too frequently. The couple walks into my office quiet and emotionally distant. They engage me in brief pleasantries, but their spirit is tired. One of them releases a deep and mournful […]
The value of speaking for yourself instead of your partner… I Statements. You’ve probably heard of the concept, whether in school or in therapy yourself. In case you’ve forgotten, here’s an easy breakdown for you: Step 1: State your emotion, using the words “I feel ….. ” Step 2: Explicitly describe the behavior “when […]
If you haven’t yet, watch the video above. Go ahead, I think you’ll enjoy it. I want to tell you a story about a younger and more foolish me. One evening as my wife and I were talking about our day, she started to share a story with me about some conflict taking […]
Pop culture has plenty of ideas on how to achieve a satisfying sexual experience; unfortunately most of it is utter crap or requires physical feats few of uscould accomplish. My desire for you is to enjoy the fullness that sex has to offer you and your marriage while avoiding the harmful side effects of some bad […]
I want you to do a quick mental exercise with me. I want you to picture your partner in your mind’s eye. Make it flattering. And make sure they are smiling. You can smile too. Holding onto this image, I want you to bring to mind a quality in your partner that makes you […]
We have been hard at work at Your Marriage Matters and are very excited to announce our plans to launch as a Not-for-Profit! This will allow us to best serve our mission of helping couples in our region gain access to marriage counseling, to help promote healthy marriages and relationships everywhere, and to speak theologically […]
When we think about common threats to a healthy marriage we might think of issues like finances, children or sexual intimacy. While these are valid and significant issues, there is a threat more subtle and damaging to marriage: busyness.
So you’re sorry for disappointing your partner. As a follow up of sorts to my last post, Dealing with Disappointment, I’d like to share a few quick thoughts on how to respond when we find ourselves in this unenviable position. Two prevailing principles are at play here: say what you mean & mean what you say; and actions speak louder than words.
We’ve all been there. A forgotten date; an underwhelming anniversary; a last minute gift. The moments in life that leave us saddened, frustrated, and longing for something … more. So how do we respond to disappointment? I’d like to offer a better starting point. Look within, look to the other, and look between.