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4 Steps to Being Better Understood 4

The value of speaking for yourself instead of your partner… I Statements. You’ve probably heard of the concept, whether in school or in therapy yourself. In case you’ve forgotten, here’s an easy breakdown for you:   Step 1: State your emotion, using the words “I feel ….. ” Step 2: Explicitly describe the behavior “when […]


Is it about the nail?

  If you haven’t yet, watch the video above. Go ahead, I think you’ll enjoy it.   I want to tell you a story about a younger and more foolish me. One evening as my wife and I were talking about our day, she started to share a story with me about some conflict taking […]


Being sorry for disappointing your partner.

So you’re sorry for disappointing your partner. As a follow up of sorts to my last post, Dealing with Disappointment, I’d like to share a few quick thoughts on how to respond when we find ourselves in this unenviable position. Two prevailing principles are at play here: say what you mean & mean what you say; and actions speak louder than words.