Author Archives : Shane Landherr


Being sorry for disappointing your partner.

So you’re sorry for disappointing your partner. As a follow up of sorts to my last post, Dealing with Disappointment, I’d like to share a few quick thoughts on how to respond when we find ourselves in this unenviable position. Two prevailing principles are at play here: say what you mean & mean what you say; and actions speak louder than words.


Valentine’s Day, Here Again

It is that time of year again, when all the lovey-dovey Facebook posts reach their peak. When the rose market experiences an “inexplicable” 300% mark up. When restaurants become filled to capacity and supermarket greeting card isles are packed with men frantically swooping in to scavenge the remaining few greeting cards available. (Been there, done that) With all the […]


Soul-mates or Sole-Mates?

  I interact with quite a variety of couples in a given week, from optimistic pre-marital couples to venomous affairs and everything in between. Through out these interactions I’ve realized one of the common threads linking them all together, or at least 80% of them, is the belief in soul-mates. This seems innocent enough, right? False. I […]


The Apartment (1960)

The Apartment (1960)

Director: Billy Wilder

What to Expect: Mild sexually suggestive language

Summary: To try and get noticed amongst the corporate homogeny that surrounds him, insurance underling C.C. Baxter (Jack Lemmon) lends out his apartment to his higher ups so they can carry out their extramarital affairs, but what he doesn’t know is that one of those trysts involves the apple of his eye, Fran Kubelik (Shirley MacLaine), and his boss, Mr. Sheldrake (Fred MacMurray).


Love, a progressive disease?

So I’ve got this theory about love. Actually it was more of a momentary thought, but I kinda like it. I believe that to the “self”, love is a progressive disease. I know, sounds harsh coming from an MFT right? Let me explain. As defined by dictionary.com, a disease is: “An impairment of the normal […]


Hellboy (2004)

Hellboy (2004)

Director: Guillermo del Toro

What to Expect: Fantasy violence, dabblings in occult mythology

Summary: Hellboy (Ron Perlman), a demon accidentally summoned from hell during a Nazi experiment in World War II, is raised liked a son by Professor Trevor Bruttenholm (John Hurt) and taught to fight the forces of evil in the world as part of the United States Bureau for Paranormal Research and Defense.


Is it wrong to stay single?

After last week’s post, Is it wrong to marry young?, I find it important to discuss the alternative to this question; Is it wrong to stay single? (As in not married, not romantically unattached.) While some segments of society place judgment upon those marrying at an early age, there are still other segments, *cough* parents *cough*, […]